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Domestic Violence



In the last few episodes, we have talked about Rye's abusive relationship with his ex-wife. We wanted to share some of the resources he used to help us put together the episode. We also want to clarify that every relationship that may have domestic abuse can be abusive in different ways than what we talked about. If you, or anyone you know feels like you may be in an abusive relationship, please reach out to a trusted adult. There are many resources and places that can provide assistance to help get you, your children, your friend, family member, or whoever out of that situation.


Domestic violence is a pattern of behaviors that are used by one partner to try and gain control or power over another partner. This can be by physical violence, emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and so much more.

Domestic violence is not just something that can happen to women, only done by men. It is very much something that can happen to anyone, no matter their gender, sexual preferences, backgrounds, educations, or religious views. It is so important that we acknowledge this because unfortunately several of the websites that were found say a female victim, and a male abuser. This is far from every case.



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Gaslighting:

psychological manipulation of a person usually over an extended period of time that causes the victim to question the validity of their own thoughts, perception of reality, or memories and typically leads to confusion, loss of confidence and self-esteem, uncertainty of one's emotional or mental stability, and a dependency on the perpetrator. (Source: Gaslighting Definition & Meaning - Merriam-Webster)



Gaslighting and physical violence are not the only types of domestic abuse out there. Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse, along with name calling, guilt-tripping, or even love bombing. Heres a website of more signs to look out for if you suspect you may be in an abusive relationship.


It wasn't until filming this episode that I found out about reactive abuse. I had never heard of it before, but my goodness did it hit home in several ways in addition to I have seen it done several times in my life, or on television. Reactive abuse is a manipulation tactic used by abusers to convince the victim and others around them that they are the ones being abused. The most recent example that came to my mind was the Johnny Depp V. Amber Heard trial where there was a video show that Mr. Depp was slamming cabinents while Ms. Heard was recording sounding like she was the innocent party, and he was just acting out being abusive. To me, and of course I am not licensed for anything, nor a lawyer but it looked like in my opinion, that she could have riled him up to react then started to record him reacting to make him look bad. The truth is, this can also happen in a relationship where both parties are just a toxic combination. Either way, here are some great resources to read up on this type of behavior.



Help is out there. We are rooting for you to have a safe and happy relationship. It is not your fault, it is ok if you can't get away today, and it is not uncommon to keep going back. We just want to make sure you have the resources when you are ready. We believe in you. <3



National Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-SAFE (7233) 800-787-3224 (TTY) Advocates are also available to chat 24/7.


National Center for Victims of Crime 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846)




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